I have a simple question based on observing some young(ish) couples on the weekend - and also to be honest Wifes’ WWM08 awards on her website, and it is this:
Why when something happens on Wifes’ watch do I get to spend the next few hours of my life convincing her that ‘every child crawls up on the roof and dives into a wading pool full of jello - it doesn’t mean that you are the worlds worst mother’. Whereas if it happens when I am in charge, I spend the next 2 days defending my abilities at being a parent and find myself denying that I was too distracted by the football and that is why Little Miss had managed to dress Usurper as a mermaid and was currently working out how to poach her.
Just a question……… is this an Aussie thing or a dad thing, or just me?
It’s none of the above. It’s a GUY thing, a universal guy thing!
The XX species have somehow positioned themselves to be the authority of Everything. XY may dominate the corporate world, but behind closed doors (and that’s only the front door of the house, occupants are still privy to what goes on) XY is usually seen scurrying around executing issued commands or making amends or amendments for previously poorly executed ones. The XX voice is usually the only one heard. The tones used may vary, but the undertones are always that of I am boss and you shall listen and shall never question the intention nor the method by which that intention should be executed
Be comforted, if you can, that you are not alone in this world. I hear there are support groups for XY to share and to get away from all this. I hear such groups meet regularly in places that serve alcohol…
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It’s a dad/male thing.
What to do…we woman are frequently emotional and require reassurances…
And bcoz we spend most of the time taking care of the kids (with an exception to some), we think we do a better job. So when something does go wrong it is becuase we have been careless and thus we beat ourself up for it.
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@jlow - that comment cracked me up, and was a far better accurate than my own post. Now if only I could find one of those support groups that Wife would allow me to attend.
Ann - that makes perfect sense in a nonsensical world.
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Jello, Mermaid, Football on TV…
Hmmm… I think Moms have this “super-power” where we drop everything and run to rescue the kids, be it to keep them from falling or just to wind up a toy. So when the daddies think such are no emergency calls from their eyes glued on tv, Moms freak out.
Personally I have been “guilty” of calling Gadget-daddy off the sofa in front of the screen to give the boy a drink, help put on the pants after a pee, stop some minor squabbles, fix a toy, … The lists goes on.
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