Wife rang today almost in tears, the reason for once was nothing to do with me being insensitive, but instead had to do with the fact that Little Miss had not beein invited to a birthday party. Apparently this isn’t the first time this had happened but the third.

Little Miss had also noticed that she wasn’t invited and had start to ask the questions about why she hadn’t been invited to her friends party? So what exactly do you tell a 3 year old?

So far we have gone with things like ‘you can’t invite everyone’ or ‘they are turning 5 so they are only inviting people there age’ and stuff like that.

But I know deep in my heart that a couple of times the reason she hasn’t been invited has quite a bit to do with her shyness. If you are always on the fringes and not completely engaged with the social group at times you will be missed out, or you will consider someone a friend whereas they will see you as an acquaintance. It is the way of the world.

Of course I came up with other reasons for wife - mainly along the lines of these peopel never came to Little Miss’ party, and all the parties we go to are the same group of kids, and these aren’t any of them. But again I know it is only part of the situation.

What made today’s harder to deal with is the girl whose party it is really is someone that Little Miss considered to be a friend. She is always talking about playing with her at Carinya, and certainly is in her top 5 as far as friends go.

So in summary life is going to be full of these little let downs, and I am going to have to work on how I explain it to Little Miss and sooth Wife at the same time. So if you have any suggestions on how to deal with it all, I am all ears.

UPDATE: When wife picked up Little Miss from daycare this afternoon she had with her an invite to the party - crisis averted. On the downside we will be away when it is on anyway so she can’t go anyway.

So to ensure she gets some social outings this weekend I am taking her to one of the birthday parties for a friend of mine. It starts midday Saturday and ends Monday sometime, but I don’t think we will stay quite that long - hopefully Little Miss will engage and not just watch. Then again Wife is probably thinking the same thing about me -